Dating tips for 20 somethings
It's one thing to ask your close girlfriends what they think about that dude you just started seeing, but it's another thing entirely to have your middle-aged aunt (or worse, a friend who is smug about having what she sees as a "perfect relationship") swoop in and act like they know everything about what you want from your love life.Good intentions are always appreciated, but trust: if a piece of advice has been said before, she's it before—probably from several people, so think twice before dishing it out.It’s tough, but keeping up friendships is work – and it’s sometimes worth it, but still. Every other friend I knew was going with a date except for me. It’s certainly not the end of the world, and I don’t think I would ever pull that stunt again, but it’s definitely lonely. I learned so much, I had the most fun ever, and I really bonded with my friends. If you’re starting to really fall for someone, but you know nothing will ever happen, you should get out before the heartbreak is too much to handle. Before your 20s, you love talking about bae on social media. You don’t need advice from your friends for everything.I couldn’t bear the thought of being the only single sitting at a table full of couples, and so… You get invited to a lot of things like that in your 20s – weddings, engagement parties, family stuff, etc. Pictures, sickingenly sweet statuses, #relationshipgoals all over the place. When I was in college, I relied on my friends for advice every moment of the day.
You’ll watch the friend who was once always there become the friend who has to pencil you in a month from now. True story: I once didn’t go to my friend’s wedding because I didn’t have anyone to bring as a plus one. But guys, going to events without a plus one is low-key hard in your 20s. If you’re casually dating someone, they ask, “Can you see yourself marrying this person? Looking back on my single years in my 20s, I am so glad they happened. At the same time, I also don’t think there is much of a point in being with someone if there is no chance of anything happening between you too – if marriage is something you want one day. Putting your relationship on social media is very overrated.
Although I’ve been in a serious relationship for the last five years (this is where I date myself), I did go through close to four long, hard years of dating as a 20-something.
I know for a fact that there are some things no one ever tells you about dating in your 20s, and you deserve to know those things.
Featured photo by Mark Cariaga via Flickr Amy Little has taught high school for 17 years, from Arkansas to Japan to Oklahoma to Alaska.
I guess “ladies” aren’t supposed to talk about their age, but I’ll just admit it: I’m in my 20s and I don’t care if you know (seriously, who cares? Anyway, considering I’m in my 20s, I am experienced in the art form that is dating in your 20s.